Comments on: Shaking and Tension http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension Helping you understand and overcome social anxiety and shyness Tue, 07 Feb 2012 01:12:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Katherine http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-40807 Katherine Sat, 28 Jan 2012 02:27:11 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-40807 John I really like your post - how do you/ did you get on being 100 percent honest with others...... This is what I really want to do as I feel it will help but I'm so worried about revealing my 'secret'! Ie if you are in a situation and experiencing extreme anxiety that becomes obvious - what do you actually say without having to give a full blown account explaining it! Thanks! John I really like your post – how do you/ did you get on being 100 percent honest with others…… This is what I really want to do as I feel it will help but I’m so worried about revealing my ‘secret’! Ie if you are in a situation and experiencing extreme anxiety that becomes obvious – what do you actually say without having to give a full blown account explaining it! Thanks!

]]> By: ann http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-40459 ann Sat, 21 Jan 2012 23:56:46 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-40459 I have suffered with social anxiety my whole life, although as a child I was just called "painfully shy". My meditation practice has helped a great deal (Falun Dafa) but it still comes up, though increasingly weaker. I think self love helps too. I have several good friends now, and I know that any one worth being my friend won't judge me if I get inexplicably anxious sometimes. Still it is difficult to deal with sometimes, and can even come up with people who I know fairly well, especially if it's been a while since I've seen them. I've even felt it with family members. One thing that I absolutely have to avoid are large parties. I just can't seem to get a handle on my anxiety in these situations, but with small groups of people I'm usually fine now, unless I'm over tired or hungry. Today I had a friend over for tea, and I felt quite happy and comfortable, but after about 30 min. the conversation turned away from politics and to more personal, emotional issues. This is what often gets me. I'm afraid of reveling too much. Of course I started shaking and was having trouble breathing, and making eye contact because I felt that she would see the fear in my eyes and think that I'm weird. Honestly thought she didn't act like she noticed. It's hard to maintain conversation in these circumstances though because my brain sort of whites out and I can't really think clearly. I'm grateful that it's getting better though, 10 years ago I wouldn't be able to do half the things that I do today, like having a tea party. I dropped out of college 4 times despite the fact that I always maintained a 4.0, but I just couldn't manage the anxiety. I hope to go back this fall though, I think that I can handle it now. I have suffered with social anxiety my whole life, although as a child I was just called “painfully shy”. My meditation practice has helped a great deal (Falun Dafa) but it still comes up, though increasingly weaker. I think self love helps too. I have several good friends now, and I know that any one worth being my friend won’t judge me if I get inexplicably anxious sometimes. Still it is difficult to deal with sometimes, and can even come up with people who I know fairly well, especially if it’s been a while since I’ve seen them. I’ve even felt it with family members. One thing that I absolutely have to avoid are large parties. I just can’t seem to get a handle on my anxiety in these situations, but with small groups of people I’m usually fine now, unless I’m over tired or hungry. Today I had a friend over for tea, and I felt quite happy and comfortable, but after about 30 min. the conversation turned away from politics and to more personal, emotional issues. This is what often gets me. I’m afraid of reveling too much. Of course I started shaking and was having trouble breathing, and making eye contact because I felt that she would see the fear in my eyes and think that I’m weird. Honestly thought she didn’t act like she noticed. It’s hard to maintain conversation in these circumstances though because my brain sort of whites out and I can’t really think clearly. I’m grateful that it’s getting better though, 10 years ago I wouldn’t be able to do half the things that I do today, like having a tea party. I dropped out of college 4 times despite the fact that I always maintained a 4.0, but I just couldn’t manage the anxiety. I hope to go back this fall though, I think that I can handle it now.

]]> By: John http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-40025 John Sun, 15 Jan 2012 23:03:37 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-40025 What has worked for me: I am a shaking SA sufferer since 20 years (I am now 40), but over the last two years I have eliminated 80-90% of the problem and I am entirely medication free. The SA tremors created a living hell for me, only surpassed by the hell created by benzos, antidepressants etc. over a 15-year period. Horrible side effects beyond belief. But now to my step-by-step solution. 1. Reach out, be open and be 100% honest to yourself and others! It is absolutely crucial to talk to someone about your issues in order to defuse them. The "I have to hide my dark secret" thinking is a key component of the problem. 2. You have to stop feeling ashamed - tell yourself "I may tremble and look nervous sometimes but I'm still a lovely and competent person". Accept that you are (for the moment) a socially anxious person. The day you can confidently tell a dinner crowd "look - now my silly hand tremor has started again", that will be a day very close to the moment of your full recovery. No decent person will look down on you the slightest for doing that - quite to the contrary. If you communicate well instead of (perhaps unsuccessfully) hiding things people around you will feel more at ease as well. 3. Identify the key triggers. For me it was the anticipation of being watched. So what did I need to practice? I needed to practice being watched of course! 4. Through gradual exposure (very important - baby-steps!) I learnt to feel relaxed while being watched. I did this without a therapist, but I would recommend using a CBT-therapist specialized in social anxiety and actual real-life exposure training in order to achieve faster progress. Start and get confident with mental visualization before going IRL. 5. Get to know your sensations. Feel and even try to strengthen the bad sensations as they arise - getting rid of the "fear of the fear sensations" is essential. Then experiment around how you can blow the bad feeling to bits and replace it with a good feeling. For me rolling my shoulders crates some kind of flow and good feeling that can be used to replace the bad feelings. You have conditioned yourself to feel bad in certain situation - so reconditioning is needed. Become a relaxation expert (meditation, Jacobsen and more are helpful tools), and try to connect the relaxed feelings with dreaded scenarios. 6. New thinking pattern: Instead of thinking "I hope this doesn't happen, I hope she doesn't see me" etc, I am thinking the opposite (George Constanza principle): "I hope that annoying person sees me, my shaking and comments on it, because I'm going to be ok with that and that will be yet another pesonal victory". Be bold and confidently anticipate various scary scenarios instead of thinking "I hope this or that won't happen because if it does I'm gonna freak out...". Don't avoid the challenge, meet it! 7. Don't try to stop the shaking - instead tell it "Shake more! Shake more!" 8. Make sure you get all the essential nutrients through a balanced diet and additional multivitamin/mineral supplements. 9. Practice your fine motor skills regarding the very muscles that have a tendency to shake. It seems stress can somehow disconnect the eye-hand fine motor coordination, so you may have to build these skills again (similar to post-stroke training). Take up sewing or something else that will rebuild your coordination. 10. Reprogramme your stress reflexes - tell yourself everyday "Whenever I feel a stress sensation it is a message saying I should relax" - do this repeatedly over the course of some weeks and months and your subconscious will gradually turn you into a person that handles stress in a naturally relaxed way. 11. Practice not giving a damn about what other people think. Wear a stupid costume, go into a McDonalds' and ask for a pizza. They will think you're a nut, but who cares! Practice having fake nervous breakdowns, fake shaking etc. This will teach you to take your problems more lightly and with humor. Conclusion: Medications and alcohol act to anesthetize and cover-up the roots of the problem while lessening your true potential. The day you stop being ashamed of your SA problems, that day most of the problem will have gone away. If you are open with people and gradually practice relaxation while in "dreaded scenarios", you will be on a path of continuous progress. It may take some time (perhaps you spent ten years building up the problem - you may need one or two years to fix it), but you won't regret it. I am not saying these steps form THE ONLY solution for everyone. I am just saying it worked for me, and I suspect it would work for a lot others too. I wish you all the best of luck from the bottom of my heart - I know how bad it can be - beyond any words really. But in a way it isn't as bad as we think. It is the glossy walls of fake perfection that people put up between them that make it so difficult, but honestly, there are millions and millions of helpful souls out their that want to tear down the walls and help you, if you just let them... What has worked for me: I am a shaking SA sufferer since 20 years (I am now 40), but over the last two years I have eliminated 80-90% of the problem and I am entirely medication free. The SA tremors created a living hell for me, only surpassed by the hell created by benzos, antidepressants etc. over a 15-year period. Horrible side effects beyond belief. But now to my step-by-step solution.

1. Reach out, be open and be 100% honest to yourself and others! It is absolutely crucial to talk to someone about your issues in order to defuse them. The “I have to hide my dark secret” thinking is a key component of the problem.

2. You have to stop feeling ashamed – tell yourself “I may tremble and look nervous sometimes but I’m still a lovely and competent person”. Accept that you are (for the moment) a socially anxious person. The day you can confidently tell a dinner crowd “look – now my silly hand tremor has started again”, that will be a day very close to the moment of your full recovery. No decent person will look down on you the slightest for doing that – quite to the contrary. If you communicate well instead of (perhaps unsuccessfully) hiding things people around you will feel more at ease as well.

3. Identify the key triggers. For me it was the anticipation of being watched. So what did I need to practice? I needed to practice being watched of course!

4. Through gradual exposure (very important – baby-steps!) I learnt to feel relaxed while being watched. I did this without a therapist, but I would recommend using a CBT-therapist specialized in social anxiety and actual real-life exposure training in order to achieve faster progress. Start and get confident with mental visualization before going IRL.

5. Get to know your sensations. Feel and even try to strengthen the bad sensations as they arise – getting rid of the “fear of the fear sensations” is essential. Then experiment around how you can blow the bad feeling to bits and replace it with a good feeling. For me rolling my shoulders crates some kind of flow and good feeling that can be used to replace the bad feelings. You have conditioned yourself to feel bad in certain situation – so reconditioning is needed. Become a relaxation expert (meditation, Jacobsen and more are helpful tools), and try to connect the relaxed feelings with dreaded scenarios.

6. New thinking pattern: Instead of thinking “I hope this doesn’t happen, I hope she doesn’t see me” etc, I am thinking the opposite (George Constanza principle): “I hope that annoying person sees me, my shaking and comments on it, because I’m going to be ok with that and that will be yet another pesonal victory”. Be bold and confidently anticipate various scary scenarios instead of thinking “I hope this or that won’t happen because if it does I’m gonna freak out…”. Don’t avoid the challenge, meet it!

7. Don’t try to stop the shaking – instead tell it “Shake more! Shake more!”

8. Make sure you get all the essential nutrients through a balanced diet and additional multivitamin/mineral supplements.

9. Practice your fine motor skills regarding the very muscles that have a tendency to shake. It seems stress can somehow disconnect the eye-hand fine motor coordination, so you may have to build these skills again (similar to post-stroke training). Take up sewing or something else that will rebuild your coordination.

10. Reprogramme your stress reflexes – tell yourself everyday “Whenever I feel a stress sensation it is a message saying I should relax” – do this repeatedly over the course of some weeks and months and your subconscious will gradually turn you into a person that handles stress in a naturally relaxed way.

11. Practice not giving a damn about what other people think. Wear a stupid costume, go into a McDonalds’ and ask for a pizza. They will think you’re a nut, but who cares! Practice having fake nervous breakdowns, fake shaking etc. This will teach you to take your problems more lightly and with humor.

Conclusion: Medications and alcohol act to anesthetize and cover-up the roots of the problem while lessening your true potential. The day you stop being ashamed of your SA problems, that day most of the problem will have gone away. If you are open with people and gradually practice relaxation while in “dreaded scenarios”, you will be on a path of continuous progress. It may take some time (perhaps you spent ten years building up the problem – you may need one or two years to fix it), but you won’t regret it.

I am not saying these steps form THE ONLY solution for everyone. I am just saying it worked for me, and I suspect it would work for a lot others too.

I wish you all the best of luck from the bottom of my heart – I know how bad it can be – beyond any words really. But in a way it isn’t as bad as we think. It is the glossy walls of fake perfection that people put up between them that make it so difficult, but honestly, there are millions and millions of helpful souls out their that want to tear down the walls and help you, if you just let them…

]]> By: Christine http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-39716 Christine Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:24:16 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-39716 I am so glad I have seen this site and have read through peoples situations with interest. My shakyness started a few years ago when being handed a drink in a pub, still happens in that situation, although it subsides quite quickly, but my main problem is when someone at work sits with me at the computer. If its someone I'm not entirely comfortable with my hands shake when using the mouse and its quite obvious and it gets so embarrassing. I have been out of work quite a bit these past few months so tends to happen if I am starting a new temping role and someone needs to train me. Being out of work has obviously affected my confidence. I know from reading the case studies and responses its down to almost being afraid of myself and subconciously bringing on the shaking. Its something I am going to work out how to control but I feel so comforted after reading some of the other comments...ITS NOT JUST ME. Thanks everyone x I am so glad I have seen this site and have read through peoples situations with interest. My shakyness started a few years ago when being handed a drink in a pub, still happens in that situation, although it subsides quite quickly, but my main problem is when someone at work sits with me at the computer. If its someone I’m not entirely comfortable with my hands shake when using the mouse and its quite obvious and it gets so embarrassing. I have been out of work quite a bit these past few months so tends to happen if I am starting a new temping role and someone needs to train me. Being out of work has obviously affected my confidence.

I know from reading the case studies and responses its down to almost being afraid of myself and subconciously bringing on the shaking. Its something I am going to work out how to control but I feel so comforted after reading some of the other comments…ITS NOT JUST ME. Thanks everyone x

]]> By: D http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-32508 D Wed, 26 Oct 2011 18:39:18 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-32508 I've been reading about social anxiety for couple of days. my english is not so good, but you'll understand...I have a big problem! I have all the symptoms of anxiety, pounding heart and then my hands starts to shake, and i mean REALY shake, i think my arms shake...I actually worked as a waitress, it was awful! especially when I served coffee...but i did it anyway, for 2 years. the good thing was that my boss was my friend, and he didn't mind, i didn't get fired, he never said anything about it. but now, i got a new job, as a cashier, it should start in 2 weeks, and you can imagine shaking doing that! im nervous just thinking about it! i have no idea how to deal with this...when i do something for some time, i get used to the job and i can handle it then, but first couple weeks really scares me becouse i could get fired...i mean, lets face it, which boss would keep shaky girl when he can find normal one who wont pass out just becouse people wonna bye food! I was thinking to actually tell him that it could happen, but then again...he doesnt have time or nervs to deal with that...and he doesn't even know me, why would he? im very responsible, and I know I am a good worker and great person, but I am very afraid this would cost me normal life...I am not shy eather, I have no idea why this is happening! its like a panic attack and I know it will happen, its like I'm pushing myslef to embarressement! again, sorry for my english :) I’ve been reading about social anxiety for couple of days. my english is not so good, but you’ll understand…I have a big problem! I have all the symptoms of anxiety, pounding heart and then my hands starts to shake, and i mean REALY shake, i think my arms shake…I actually worked as a waitress, it was awful! especially when I served coffee…but i did it anyway, for 2 years. the good thing was that my boss was my friend, and he didn’t mind, i didn’t get fired, he never said anything about it. but now, i got a new job, as a cashier, it should start in 2 weeks, and you can imagine shaking doing that! im nervous just thinking about it! i have no idea how to deal with this…when i do something for some time, i get used to the job and i can handle it then, but first couple weeks really scares me becouse i could get fired…i mean, lets face it, which boss would keep shaky girl when he can find normal one who wont pass out just becouse people wonna bye food! I was thinking to actually tell him that it could happen, but then again…he doesnt have time or nervs to deal with that…and he doesn’t even know me, why would he? im very responsible, and I know I am a good worker and great person, but I am very afraid this would cost me normal life…I am not shy eather, I have no idea why this is happening! its like a panic attack and I know it will happen, its like I’m pushing myslef to embarressement! again, sorry for my english :)

]]> By: b http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-28484 b Thu, 01 Sep 2011 02:26:44 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-28484 I must say this site helped me ALOT...and also gave me some new worries! I suffer from anxety and panic attacks...I have been taking buspar and also left my very stressful job! i am back on the job hunt and had an interview for the first time in 4 years today! i got sooooo nervous and completly lost my cool! tha manager had to ask me if im okay and if i need to sit down i was shaking and twitching so bad! Im glad to see im not alone...wish we could all overcome this embarassing problem! going to make dr aptment tomorrow..i cant live this way! i need to and will get over this! I must say this site helped me ALOT…and also gave me some new worries! I suffer from anxety and panic attacks…I have been taking buspar and also left my very stressful job! i am back on the job hunt and had an interview for the first time in 4 years today! i got sooooo nervous and completly lost my cool! tha manager had to ask me if im okay and if i need to sit down i was shaking and twitching so bad! Im glad to see im not alone…wish we could all overcome this embarassing problem! going to make dr aptment tomorrow..i cant live this way! i need to and will get over this!

]]> By: Steve http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-28010 Steve Sat, 20 Aug 2011 04:45:38 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-28010 I get the whole "watery eyes" thing when I'm around people too, especially around strangers. I know this is an old article, and Nick will likely never read this, but I wish somebody with more knowledge about social anxiety disorders than I have could investigate this watery eye response that just comes on uncontrollably. As well as give some advice on how to deal with it. IT SEEMS THAT THE MORE I TRY TO STOP IT, THE MORE THEY WATER. It's hell!!! I cannot find any discussion on this "social eye watering" disorder by a psychologist anywhere on the internet. I get the whole “watery eyes” thing when I’m around people too, especially around strangers. I know this is an old article, and Nick will likely never read this, but I wish somebody with more knowledge about social anxiety disorders than I have could investigate this watery eye response that just comes on uncontrollably. As well as give some advice on how to deal with it. IT SEEMS THAT THE MORE I TRY TO STOP IT, THE MORE THEY WATER. It’s hell!!! I cannot find any discussion on this “social eye watering” disorder by a psychologist anywhere on the internet.

]]> By: H http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-24369 H Sun, 12 Jun 2011 09:48:12 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-24369 I have been part of an events company for a few weeks now but I am having real difficulties with my social anxiety. Yesterday I had to waiter at a high profile wedding and I was serving wines and my hands wouldn't stop shaking. Going around the table of 8 people with them all watching my shaky hands was so embarrassing. I couldn't deal with it anymore so I asked someone else to serve my table drinks for me. I feel like such a failure and really don't want to do such a job again. I have seen a therapist, and in the short-term it worked. But now I am supposed to be going to university and I can feel all the anxieties rushing back to me. I don't know what to do. I feel that now medication is the only thing that can solve it, any ideas on what is effective? I have been part of an events company for a few weeks now but I am having real difficulties with my social anxiety. Yesterday I had to waiter at a high profile wedding and I was serving wines and my hands wouldn’t stop shaking. Going around the table of 8 people with them all watching my shaky hands was so embarrassing. I couldn’t deal with it anymore so I asked someone else to serve my table drinks for me. I feel like such a failure and really don’t want to do such a job again. I have seen a therapist, and in the short-term it worked. But now I am supposed to be going to university and I can feel all the anxieties rushing back to me. I don’t know what to do. I feel that now medication is the only thing that can solve it, any ideas on what is effective?

]]> By: curious http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-19627 curious Fri, 18 Mar 2011 21:54:55 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-19627 Yesterday as I was driving I had to stop in front of a bustop. I noticed my head felt like shaking. Then I remembered that this feeling was very common when I worked in retail. I am agoraphobic, socially anxious, generalized anxiety, and more. I avoid many places because of my anxieties. I go to school though. I do notice that I tend to fidget with something in my hand a lot when I am on my way to school and while there. I also notice that some people look at me (it seems to be because of the fidgeting). Who knows, but for me it helps to distract myself by doing something with my hands, one hand a tleast. Yesterday as I was driving I had to stop in front of a bustop. I noticed my head felt like shaking. Then I remembered that this feeling was very common when I worked in retail. I am agoraphobic, socially anxious, generalized anxiety, and more. I avoid many places because of my anxieties. I go to school though. I do notice that I tend to fidget with something in my hand a lot when I am on my way to school and while there. I also notice that some people look at me (it seems to be because of the fidgeting). Who knows, but for me it helps to distract myself by doing something with my hands, one hand a tleast.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/shaking-and-tension/comment-page-1#comment-19065 Sarah Mon, 07 Mar 2011 19:22:18 +0000 http://www.socialanxiety.co.uk/blog/?p=30#comment-19065 I am so glad I found this as well. This is my first time researching this as my shaking just started a few weeks ago. I just started shaking right now as I began to type. My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. We were together for 2 years and lived together. The break up was very mutual. Irreconcilable differences. I was pretty sad and lonely at first, but mostly relieved to be rid of the mooch, then 3 days after the break up, I heard from a friend that he had been seen spending a lot of time with the girl that had been a subject for one of his paintings (she happens to be ten years younger than me...ouch). I asked him about it and he said that they would probably hook up. I was furious. I felt so betrayed and hurt that for a week I was a wreck. I would come home from work and collapse on my floor screaming in tears and shaking so bad it would classify as convulsing. I forced myself to snap out of it with help from great friends. I have a 2 year old daughter so, I had to be functional. About a week later, I was asked out by A guy in my circle of friends. I was thrilled. We met up for a drink before dinner and I was so nervous. We ordered drinks and when I went to pick mine up, I was shaking so bad it almost flew out of my hand. I put it back down immediately. I went to the bathroom to try and compose myself but, it didn't help. I sat back down and didn't touch my drink for ten minutes. I told him it was my daughters bedtime and that I had to go outside to call her. I called my mom and told her what happened. She said everything she should have and I made it through the drink and we left. I've been seeing this guy for about three weeks. It's been amazing but, it still happens. I try my best to hide it but, It's getting worse. I work in a kitchen which keeps me busy and I'm fine but, when I walk out to the floor to get a glass of water, I pick it up and realize I'm shaking again! It comes and goes throughout the day. It even happens when I'm at home just when I think about certain things (like this guy). It was really freaking me out until I found this site. I guess I know now what's wrong with me. I'm afraid people notice and think I'm an alcoholic and that I have DT's. I would like to know if you think that the break up is the trigger for this and why (it's pretty clear to me that is, I would just like some feedback). I have always had a little social anxiety and I lead a pretty stressful life. On the other hand, I love my life. I have a great time and a very positive outlook. This shaking thing is always on my mind and it is causing me a great deal of stress all day, everyday. Thank you @Steve with the stammer; I think stammers are absolutely adorable and whether the speech therapy helps or not, I think you should embrace it. If someone doesn't like it, they can talk to someone else. I am so glad I found this as well. This is my first time researching this as my shaking just started a few weeks ago. I just started shaking right now as I began to type.
My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. We were together for 2 years and lived together. The break up was very mutual. Irreconcilable differences. I was pretty sad and lonely at first, but mostly relieved to be rid of the mooch, then 3 days after the break up, I heard from a friend that he had been seen spending a lot of time with the girl that had been a subject for one of his paintings (she happens to be ten years younger than me…ouch). I asked him about it and he said that they would probably hook up. I was furious. I felt so betrayed and hurt that for a week I was a wreck. I would come home from work and collapse on my floor screaming in tears and shaking so bad it would classify as convulsing. I forced myself to snap out of it with help from great friends. I have a 2 year old daughter so, I had to be functional.

About a week later, I was asked out by A guy in my circle of friends. I was thrilled. We met up for a drink before dinner and I was so nervous. We ordered drinks and when I went to pick mine up, I was shaking so bad it almost flew out of my hand. I put it back down immediately. I went to the bathroom to try and compose myself but, it didn’t help. I sat back down and didn’t touch my drink for ten minutes. I told him it was my daughters bedtime and that I had to go outside to call her. I called my mom and told her what happened. She said everything she should have and I made it through the drink and we left.

I’ve been seeing this guy for about three weeks. It’s been amazing but, it still happens. I try my best to hide it but, It’s getting worse. I work in a kitchen which keeps me busy and I’m fine but, when I walk out to the floor to get a glass of water, I pick it up and realize I’m shaking again! It comes and goes throughout the day. It even happens when I’m at home just when I think about certain things (like this guy). It was really freaking me out until I found this site. I guess I know now what’s wrong with me. I’m afraid people notice and think I’m an alcoholic and that I have DT’s.

I would like to know if you think that the break up is the trigger for this and why (it’s pretty clear to me that is, I would just like some feedback). I have always had a little social anxiety and I lead a pretty stressful life. On the other hand, I love my life. I have a great time and a very positive outlook. This shaking thing is always on my mind and it is causing me a great deal of stress all day, everyday.

Thank you

@Steve with the stammer; I think stammers are absolutely adorable and whether the speech therapy helps or not, I think you should embrace it. If someone doesn’t like it, they can talk to someone else.

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