Comments on: Are People Laughing at You?

By: anthony

anthony — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 03:47:39 +0000

I go to high school and im in the 9th grade.in middle school I got laughed at alot because I didnt have the brand name cloothes like everyone.everyone also called me ugly and would pick on me.to make it wo.rst my face started breaking out and giant red bumps would pop up on my face.this year started very well made alot of friends but now every time I do anyghing I feel like every ones watching then I like stumble and turn red but the big promblem is when I walk down the hallway people always star at me and laugh ilook at them to see ehat their looking at and they just laugh.

p.s. I got a job so I bought all big name designer clothes and shoes

By: Kofi

Kofi — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 00:34:59 +0000

i have a way of looking at the windows of the bus, or train and i actually see ladies staring at me.. talking into each other’s ears and laughing.. at the bus stop.. two girls pass by and one turns around looks at me, whispers into the other’s ears and she also takes a glance and they laugh.. and as they walk away they keep it up, i usually do a quick check around and realise i am the only person at the bus stop.. what do i do to ladies for them to keep on laughing at me.. i know i am not the tall, handsome, well toned muscles guy.. and i keep myself to myself.. i avoid staring at people.. or nor do i think that i am “hot looking”… so why soo much hatred from ladies… what do i do to them.. it really hurts me a lot…

By: daniel

daniel — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 10:22:02 +0000

so its not the subconscious the problem,thats only in my case.when i go into that “state” when people laugh at me my pupils dilate and they get bigger so i think the key is to learn to keep the pupils small when you go in public.Its frustrating because its so abstract yet so many people have this problem.also when im in that state i see PHOTOS smiling not people PHOTOS so i think its like: Im smiling____people think I think im cool but im not_____ they try to not laugh when they see me .Now i DONT want to smile but its like im stuck in that state and i cant get out so another thing its to change the state how you feel idk guys i tried but its beyond my power

By: daniel

daniel — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 07:27:34 +0000

this happened to me last year but with time it decreased now its back,and worse than before.I think it happens to us at the same time that’s weird.Well i might not have the answer but i think i got part of it.and its this: its an idea fixed in the subconscious that makes us feel weird,SA etc.Yesterday i tried to reprogram my subconscious but that only brought the problem back worse than before and i know now that is something in the subconscious thats the problem.I looked at some photos and i could see them smiling.Ill try to find a solution and ill let you know. Good luck and be strong!

By: Mary Love

Mary Love — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 18:26:15 +0000

thanks for the article. thanks for naming some skills one could use in a stressful context it helps me to reach for something new instead of aversion or avoidance learned skills. i feel better already.

By: Paul

Paul — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 00:50:10 +0000

hello everyone.

it’s amazing to read all this and know that this affects a lot of people, not just me. I’ve had this issue since i hit puberty and it’s had it’s really bad phases and not so bad phases….which have been in conjunction with how i’m feeling about myself in general and my confidence levels i suppose.

one thing is for sure..this is serious and it is having a seriously detrimental effect on our lives. i know for a fact i am missing out on a alot of life’s potential happiness as a result and that is enough to know it needs addressed, for all of us. i recently lost out on a shot at love with a wonderful person as a result of this issue, it hurt and i know i can’t hack too many more disappointments like that.

i don’t know about you people but i am actually really curious about what you all look like and i think it could do a lot of good if we were to put pictures of ourselves up on a hosting site and see what all the fuss is about.

i’ll start the ball rolling if anyone is interested, just go this link http://s1127.photobucket.com/albums/l638/19atlantis79/

thing is part of me thinks that we will all look fairly normal in a still image but our anxiety has a strong effect on the way we ‘carry ourselves’ in public. i feel myself tensing up and not knowing what to do with my hands or even how to stand when i feel that i am ‘on display’. i don’t know where to look, what to do with my mouth (sounds weird but this is a huge thing for me right now, my mouth cannot relax and tenses up and i want to lick my lips!! wtf is up with that?)

as the saying goes, ‘ignorance is bliss’ and when i am utterly unaware (and not overly sensitive to) the world around me and who may be watching, i know i am in my best form and probably not causing much attention or acting overly weird. this isn’t always the case of course.

i do believe that we are all very sensitive souls on here ( and as a result probably very decent, kind and intelligent souls). anyway there is a whole load i could write but i hope to get into more discussion with some of you nice folks. my email is pmurray79 at gmail dot com if anyboday wants to talk or add me on facebook. keep the faith people. Px

By: Blair

Blair — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 16:10:19 +0000

Bityut please do not kill yourself. We are in the same boat. All we can do is encourage one another through this site. What I have done now is, stopped smiling, and put a sticker on my truck bumper that says,”you can laugh all the way to hell”. I also wear a T shirt from time to time that says,”God is watching what you are doing.” The results I am getting are phenomenal.

By: tilly

tilly — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 19:51:20 +0000

i always feel like a idoilt in school, the girls are totally different from me there into like boy-bands and ink and im into like classical music and goth clothes. it happens in pe the most everytime they look at me or smile i feel like their laughing at em, im very shy and that dosent help but i feel uncomfatable sorry about speling mistakes im just 13 anyway i dont know what to do

By: tilly

tilly — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 19:49:54 +0000

i always feel like a idoilt ins chool, the girls are totally different from me there into like boy-bands and ink and im into like classical music and goth clothes. it happens in pe the most everytime they look at me or smile i feel like their laughing at em, im bery shy and that dosent help but i feel uncomfatable sorry about speeling mistakes im just 13 anyway i dont know what to do

By: Josh

Josh — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 13:04:56 +0000

I get laughed at alot because of my appearance. This usually happens when I go to the local club by me to watch some bands. I have a small mullet and I normally wear a leather jacket, t shirt and stonewash jeans when I go out and people seem to find it funny just because I dont look like all the other people in the club. I swear people are getting more judgemental by the day its ridicolous.