Being Yourself
More videos, but this time about being yourself and social anxiety. I explore how people with social anxiety find it hard to be themselves and offer some thoughts on the subject. I talk about people pleasing, adopting others opinions, identity, intimacy, honesty and expressing your feelings.
Tags: Being Yourself, Expressing Feeling, Honest, Identity, Intimacy, People Pleasing
January 17th, 2010 at 5:24 am
Hi Nick,
Thanks for another interesting topic!
I think that the most difficult thing for a person suffering from SAD is to actually allow people to get close and hence form intimate relationships. I know I have that problem and not because I would be a people pleaser, I’m still assertive and confident enough on that level to be able to express my own opinion in most situations despite often feeling awfully embarrassed afterwards, realising that all eyes were on me. I just don’t want to worry other people with my problems, often don’t feel they would understand and don’t even know where to start a conversation about own feelings. They always remind us that people are drawn to those with smiling faces and a happy and easy-going attitude towards life. In that case, revealing own dark side can be off putting for most people. I started seeing a psychologist recently and cry every time I’m there when I talk about my personal problems and my emotions come to the surface. I just can’t imagine talking about things like that to anyone else which is why I often feel I have a double identity – a happy face when I’m in public and a sad one when I’m alone.